Negative Energy: No

Remember the book, "Tuesdays with Maurie?"  I have Saturdays with Roger... to be succinct, Roger was recently wiped out in a motorcycle accident where someone in a car drifted into his lane and ended up with him losing his left leg below the knee.  I'll let you imagine what happened, and yes, it was that bad.

But that's not the point of this blog.  It's how he approaches his situation, and how I have been thankfully encouraged to face my own personal relationship break up.  The bottom line is that he refuses to expend negative energy.  Not towards the person who hit him, the doctors who couldn't understand his pain management needs, nor the life that he faces without a significant portion of his body.

He simply refuses to.

The reason is that he - and I - realize that when you do something like that, it's your choice.  You choose to go down a road that is dark, evil, and negative and nothing good will come of it.  "The sweetest revenge is success," he told me the other day, sitting in the sun with his amputated leg resting on a chaise lounge chair.

That doesn't mean he doesn't have pain, or great financial need, or new life challenges he never anticipated.  It's how he approaches.  I've been asked the same thing about my situation - why am I not bitter and trying to extract revenge?  What good would it do?  Get me in trouble, consume me with negative thoughts, and ultimately let the actions of a very few people control my life and future relationships: Hell. No.

Life is all about how you approach it, and I always fall back on, "Good feeds good, and bad feeds bad."  So what's in your life that is negative but you give it more attention than you should?  Let it go, and find something good - and focus on that.  Trust me, you'll be glad you do.  Ciao for now! - Cb...